Some Guys Know

[don_jetman]

I posted this some time ago on another forum, but thought it might be a conversation
starter here. It isn't only about gym hookups specifically - it can happen anywhere.
Some guys hit on so many women they get laid a lot, whatever their success rate. But
how many really know a "hotwife" when they see her? How do some guys know?

~*~

L and I usually work out at the gym together. It's a great way to spend some quality
time as a couple, and a potent stress reliever after a busy day or hectic week. I
came out of the men's room after our workout after work today to find L chatting with
one of the trainers. He's a good-looking guy, always friendly, but we've never asked
for any paid sessions with him. He'll step in and offer suggestions during our
workouts, but was never overly interested in L.

I watched for a while from across the gym, trying my best to seem like I hadn't
noticed them. It wasn't easy. The guy dwarf's L when standing beside her. You've seen
the type - lats so big they look like wings, and arms that hang away from his body
like sides of beef when he walks. I went to the juice bar where L finally joined me
after twenty minutes with her new friend.

I didn't have to ask. "You won't believe this," she told me quietly. "He said he
could tell I'm a "hotwife". Don, he knew the word. He told me he's sure you won't
mind if I go back to his place for a while. You didn't set this up, did you?" I
assured her that I hadn't - in fact I didn't know him at all, and certainly didn't
have the opportunity while we were working out.

"Well, he is a really nice guy..." she finally muttered, careful not to let anyone
overhear.

"And that means - you might want to go with him?"

She motioned toward the front of the gym, and we started for the door.

"I think I do..." she told me as we stood by the door where there was a bit more
privacy.

We hung there in limbo for a while, each waiting for the awkward silence to end.

"Then, should I leave?" I asked.

"Do you mind?" she answered. "He offered to drive me home after..."

I hadn't seen her this hesitant, this uncomfortable about having sex with another
guy, in years. It was surprising, and kind of cute. I enjoyed an inward smile - my
little girl was still inside her, somewhere.

I drove home, showered, and waited for what I feared might be a long, lonely night.
She was back home an hour later, very tired, and very happy. She described it as "the
best sex I can have with a new guy I meet", quick and dirty, with no anxiety on
anyone's part that she's married. She's absolutely glowing.

So - my question, and reason for the post, is - how the fuck do some guys know? L and
I work out together all the time and enjoy each other's company. We look like a
happy, loving couple, but work hard at the gym and pride ourselves on our intense
workouts. L doesn't dress provocatively at the gym - she wears running shorts and old
t-shirts. In fact, she makes fun of the women who show up in designer leotards and
thongs. I'm more than just fit, and normal looking - not a pussy by actions or
appearance. Tonight I'm mystified. How do some guys know???

 

[SexySamurai]

How do some guys know???

This is a very interesting story.

Don, my opinion what it is in their minds.
If some men had experiences with a hotwife in past, they can feel the same aura/atmosphere from another hotwife I think.
Perhaps this is not a very good example, but this is how I (who worked in trading for many years) can see a trader in any unknown person, without even saying a word, just watching him in his usual life.

I guess that when a person has been doing something for many years, it leaves an imperceptible imprint on his behavior.
But only those who are involved in this area can recognize this imprint.

 

[don_jetman]

You have a good point concerning an experienced Bull's talent for recognizing a hotwife. I often forget how commonplace the lifestyle has become over the years, and I'm sure the media has helped bring it to the forefront. Although I doubt L or I project an aura of promiscuous behavior on her part or submissive qualities on my part, sometimes, as you say, we become desensitized to the very things that reveal who we are to others. That's difficult for me to accept, but it's quite possibly true. Are we constantly "advertising" L's availability to other men, regardless of how we try to hide it? If that's the case, and we can't recognise it ourselves, it's impossible to change our behavior so the men who would be Bulls can't see it. That's both alarming, and a little hot - it makes L unassuming "bait", and me helpless to do anything about it. Maybe we have less control over our sex life then we think. Then again, sometimes L can't help flirting a little, even if she doesn't want to fuck the guy. Quite probably, other men are watching...

 

[SexySamurai]

Quite probably, other men are watching...

Oh no, I'm not talking about an aura of erratic behavior on her part, but rather an aura of refined passion.
I confess that I have not spoken so much in my life about such things, so perhaps I am not very good at choosing my words.

It's just that in my youth I always literally felt the desire of unfamiliar men with my back.
So then I did not think of anything better than to dress and behave more like a guy, not to use makeup.
I managed to reduce the claims at least by half. But this is in my past already.

So, based on my experience, it seems to me that it is possible that men can also unconsciously feel the sensuality and magnetism of L, and the special relationship between you.

 

[don_jetman]

I understand - I wouldn't describe her behavior in public erratic, but she tends to be a touchy-feely person, even though she's usually very private. I know it's partially her looks - I've repeatedly described her as fit and petite, a "woman-child" by the way she acts and looks. I know men see her as a delicious but vulnerable target, and the girlishness definitely attracts dominating men. She doesn't complain - she actually enjoys it, to a point. But sometimes she doesn't realize the effect she has on men, and then wonders why some guys won't leave her alone after she's extra "nice" to them.

 

[SexySamurai]

"Woman-child" is always in the spotlight of many men.
Full of life and natural, therefore she stands out from the crowd.
And too rare to see in everyday life. Your wife is a real treasure, Don.

 

[don_jetman]

Yes, she's a genuine treasure, but one so many men want. Although many times it's exciting, it isn't always easy for me. Sometimes it's still a fine line, even after all these years. She is always careful to massage my ego though, so that helps!

 

[Brandon Calimesa]

I understand - I wouldn't describe her behavior in public erratic, but she tends to be a touchy-feely person, even though she's usually very private. I know it's partially her looks - I've repeatedly described her as fit and petite, a "woman-child" by the way she acts and looks. I know men see her as a delicious but vulnerable target, and the girlishness definitely attracts dominating men. She doesn't complain - she actually enjoys it, to a point. But sometimes she doesn't realize the effect she has on men, and then wonders why some guys won't leave her alone after she's extra "nice" to them.

Hey don, any more great content? Have anything related to the upcoming Thanks Giving holiday?

 

[don_jetman]

I don't really include holiday events in my accounts of our adventures, although many were experienced over our holiday vacations in December when we traveled south to visit relatives and L's Dom. If I can find something related, it's more likely to be one of my memories rather than a type of "method, technique, or advice" as this thread suggests. I'll see what I can dig up. I've been very busy lately with some work and personal issues that should be resolved soon.