don_jetman
Moderator
We do mostly what I'd consider hotwifing, but we also role play with cuckold themes. After fifteen years of this, we often can't wait for our next adventure, and we're closer than ever. It works for us, and the sex never gets old or boring.
Don
Don
don_jetman
Moderator
Hi Robert,
I'm always careful not to push the lifestyle on anyone. There are many individual factors involved. L and I have had a few bumps in the road, the most dangerous her infatuation with a Navy JAG. Aside from his position and looks, he was the most hung guy L has ever had. It was a close call, and we almost split up over her obsession, but fortunately she came back to earth in time to patch things up. The guy was also engaged at the time, so he wasn't going to cheat on his future wife after his affair with L.
I think personalities play a role as well. I'm a very analytical person and always try to view things sensibly. In fact, L often calls me Mr. Spock. The down side is that when reason and details are everything, I sometimes get tangled up and lost in them, leading me to places that are not real at all. By now L recognizes this and does her magic to bring me back to reality. It's just not being able to "see the forest for the trees" thing for me now and then. L can be complicated, sometimes the innocent, proper wife she was raised to believe was "right", and then at other times she can be suddenly brazen and uninhibited. The contrast can be shocking and sexy. She knows this, and that by now I love it, so she's made teasing and confusion me at times an art form.
Everyone will tell you it's all about communication, which is partially true. Long ago L and I decided to have "debriefing" sessions the day after she plays - no sex, just sober talk in the daylight about what she and I did or did not enjoy. Emotions run high during the sex for both husband and wife, but the calm, cool truth in the light of day can reveal things smothered and forgotten by the heat of sex. We've also learned a lot about each other's sexual preferences that would probably never been confessed otherwise. But just as important, to me, is experience and maturity. At a certain point, hotwifing or cuckolding is a new experience for everyone. The time spent watching and doing can accumulate to provide a formidable wall against jealousy and misunderstanding. There will be problems, but problem resolution skills can make things right again.
Lastly, this is not a lifestyle for everyone. Even if it's something you come enjoy, you will stumble, and you will have to find your own way at times. So watch your step, carefully. It tests your strength as a couple, but can also make the bond stronger, for some people. Most importantly, don't let others on the internet tell you what's right for you as a couple. Listen to the advice, then the decisions are yours.
Don
I'm always careful not to push the lifestyle on anyone. There are many individual factors involved. L and I have had a few bumps in the road, the most dangerous her infatuation with a Navy JAG. Aside from his position and looks, he was the most hung guy L has ever had. It was a close call, and we almost split up over her obsession, but fortunately she came back to earth in time to patch things up. The guy was also engaged at the time, so he wasn't going to cheat on his future wife after his affair with L.
I think personalities play a role as well. I'm a very analytical person and always try to view things sensibly. In fact, L often calls me Mr. Spock. The down side is that when reason and details are everything, I sometimes get tangled up and lost in them, leading me to places that are not real at all. By now L recognizes this and does her magic to bring me back to reality. It's just not being able to "see the forest for the trees" thing for me now and then. L can be complicated, sometimes the innocent, proper wife she was raised to believe was "right", and then at other times she can be suddenly brazen and uninhibited. The contrast can be shocking and sexy. She knows this, and that by now I love it, so she's made teasing and confusion me at times an art form.
Everyone will tell you it's all about communication, which is partially true. Long ago L and I decided to have "debriefing" sessions the day after she plays - no sex, just sober talk in the daylight about what she and I did or did not enjoy. Emotions run high during the sex for both husband and wife, but the calm, cool truth in the light of day can reveal things smothered and forgotten by the heat of sex. We've also learned a lot about each other's sexual preferences that would probably never been confessed otherwise. But just as important, to me, is experience and maturity. At a certain point, hotwifing or cuckolding is a new experience for everyone. The time spent watching and doing can accumulate to provide a formidable wall against jealousy and misunderstanding. There will be problems, but problem resolution skills can make things right again.
Lastly, this is not a lifestyle for everyone. Even if it's something you come enjoy, you will stumble, and you will have to find your own way at times. So watch your step, carefully. It tests your strength as a couple, but can also make the bond stronger, for some people. Most importantly, don't let others on the internet tell you what's right for you as a couple. Listen to the advice, then the decisions are yours.
Don
ILoveSex
Member
Thanks Don this is the best advice! Will think.
SexySamurai
Member
It is difficult to answer for me. This is like to live in another world with other laws of physics... Sometimes exciting, sometimes sharp feelings. I don't know how it will be in the future but now I do not regret for a minute that I had such an unusual and vivid experience.
neither will my wife
white_rabbit
Member
Welcome to real life bro. Can't imagine it without cuckolding, as bull.
white_rabbit
Member
So? They fucked you?
white_rabbit
Member
Sounds definitely nice, interested about next surprise from your wife.
Maybe she is bi?
Maybe she is bi?
white_rabbit
Member
So?
ILoveSex
Member
white_rabbit
Member
Who knows, I always meet girls with surprises.