SexySamurai
Member
Weddings are happening around me.
My best friend recently got married after just a few months of dating - now she and her husband are very happy together. Even on this forum now I read the news about the imminent wedding.
I was married only once, when I dreamed of my family. Those 5 years were a real hell for me, where all I got was insults and attempts to make fun of me. My ex-husband did not buy even a wedding ring, I myself gave it to him to wear on the day of marriage... I was so young to notice his game. I have never had a white dress or even a bridal bouquet.
After that, I said to myself that I would dare to repeat this experience only if I meet a person like me, who sees in me a person and not a thing or a body or a comfortable partner to use. Who will speak the same language with me and take care of me and our relationship just like I do. Now my thinking about marriage is possible only after many years of our relationship, when I know that all this is really real.
I sure, marriage doesn't change anything in a relationship. In addition to a kind of message to society (families, parents, friends, colleagues):
"this is my main person for this life and this person is the one to whom I trust as myself and have no secrets."
For me, marriage is impossible without love. And love is impossible without mutual respect, trust and support.
But I'm wondering what is a marriage for other people? This is maybe the most important step so must be reasons.
My best friend recently got married after just a few months of dating - now she and her husband are very happy together. Even on this forum now I read the news about the imminent wedding.
I was married only once, when I dreamed of my family. Those 5 years were a real hell for me, where all I got was insults and attempts to make fun of me. My ex-husband did not buy even a wedding ring, I myself gave it to him to wear on the day of marriage... I was so young to notice his game. I have never had a white dress or even a bridal bouquet.
After that, I said to myself that I would dare to repeat this experience only if I meet a person like me, who sees in me a person and not a thing or a body or a comfortable partner to use. Who will speak the same language with me and take care of me and our relationship just like I do. Now my thinking about marriage is possible only after many years of our relationship, when I know that all this is really real.
I sure, marriage doesn't change anything in a relationship. In addition to a kind of message to society (families, parents, friends, colleagues):
"this is my main person for this life and this person is the one to whom I trust as myself and have no secrets."
For me, marriage is impossible without love. And love is impossible without mutual respect, trust and support.
But I'm wondering what is a marriage for other people? This is maybe the most important step so must be reasons.